Comments on: Cry It Out Advice Not Helpful http://healthygreenmoms.com/cry-it-out-advice-not-helpful/ Ideas for living well Sun, 05 Sep 2010 07:36:21 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0 By: Lisa Ganse http://healthygreenmoms.com/cry-it-out-advice-not-helpful/comment-page-1/#comment-3984 Lisa Ganse Thu, 13 May 2010 13:32:28 +0000 http://healthygreenmoms.com/?p=3413#comment-3984 Just read your blog and wanted to share. We, too have had issues with sleep. My daughter has rarely slept thru the night and she is 5 1/2. My son is 26 months and does better, sleeping thru most nights. So needless to say, I have scoured the bookstore, websites, other parents and pediatricians looking for the solution to my "problem". A sleepy mom= a grumpy mom, and when not at my best, more of my "issues" arise. Anyway, I want to share two books that I have found immensely helpful. Elizabeth Pantley's No Cry Sleep Solution was helpful in getting my son to sleep, and with my daughter, for whom the not being able to sleep thru became a power struggle EVERY night, Beyond Time Out: From Chaos to Calm helped me specifically in the realm of sleep, but even generally overall. My daughter slept thru like maybe 4 times a year before this; since beginning to read this book and implement she has slept thru 5 of 7 nights in the past week. That is amazing, my friend. Crying it out never worked for us, everyone was miserable. Perhaps you will find some helpful advice here. Sleep well, dear lady! Just read your blog and wanted to share. We, too have had issues with sleep. My daughter has rarely slept thru the night and she is 5 1/2. My son is 26 months and does better, sleeping thru most nights. So needless to say, I have scoured the bookstore, websites, other parents and pediatricians looking for the solution to my “problem”. A sleepy mom= a grumpy mom, and when not at my best, more of my “issues” arise. Anyway, I want to share two books that I have found immensely helpful. Elizabeth Pantley’s No Cry Sleep Solution was helpful in getting my son to sleep, and with my daughter, for whom the not being able to sleep thru became a power struggle EVERY night, Beyond Time Out: From Chaos to Calm helped me specifically in the realm of sleep, but even generally overall. My daughter slept thru like maybe 4 times a year before this; since beginning to read this book and implement she has slept thru 5 of 7 nights in the past week. That is amazing, my friend. Crying it out never worked for us, everyone was miserable. Perhaps you will find some helpful advice here. Sleep well, dear lady!

]]> By: Brooke http://healthygreenmoms.com/cry-it-out-advice-not-helpful/comment-page-1/#comment-3980 Brooke Tue, 04 May 2010 20:54:40 +0000 http://healthygreenmoms.com/?p=3413#comment-3980 I am glad I found this website. I have a six month old son who is breastfed and I hold him at night. I have been trying to put him in bassinet or crib but he usually wakes right up or wakes up shortly thereafter. I refuse to let him cry it out and am surprised at the number of people who try to convince me that this is the only way to fix my "problem'', even people who I respect and am close to! I agree, babies communicate through crying. They need something if they're crying. Some babies aren't ready as soon as others to sleep all alone. There are other cultures that view Americans as crazy for putting their babies in a room all alone and letting them cry. I too wish I could just vent and talk about being tired without being judged and told I need to let my baby cry it out or I'm 'going to regret it' when they're still in bed with me a year from now. What I would regret more is having my precious baby lose trust in me and develop insecurity. If a baby has a need that isn't met now, it won't go away, it'll re-surface later in other ways. They only stop crying and go to sleep b/c they give up on you ever helping them. How horrible. I could never do that to my baby. I'd rather be tired. I'd rather go through hard times now and have a happy, secure child who trusts me. I am glad I found this website. I have a six month old son who is breastfed and I hold him at night. I have been trying to put him in bassinet or crib but he usually wakes right up or wakes up shortly thereafter. I refuse to let him cry it out and am surprised at the number of people who try to convince me that this is the only way to fix my “problem”, even people who I respect and am close to! I agree, babies communicate through crying. They need something if they’re crying. Some babies aren’t ready as soon as others to sleep all alone. There are other cultures that view Americans as crazy for putting their babies in a room all alone and letting them cry. I too wish I could just vent and talk about being tired without being judged and told I need to let my baby cry it out or I’m ‘going to regret it’ when they’re still in bed with me a year from now. What I would regret more is having my precious baby lose trust in me and develop insecurity. If a baby has a need that isn’t met now, it won’t go away, it’ll re-surface later in other ways. They only stop crying and go to sleep b/c they give up on you ever helping them. How horrible. I could never do that to my baby. I’d rather be tired. I’d rather go through hard times now and have a happy, secure child who trusts me.

]]> By: joanna http://healthygreenmoms.com/cry-it-out-advice-not-helpful/comment-page-1/#comment-3972 joanna Wed, 21 Apr 2010 12:32:36 +0000 http://healthygreenmoms.com/?p=3413#comment-3972 just found this website this morning, i'm looking for some options to help my son's severe eczema, thanks for sharing your insights! in terms of the sleep debate, agreed that each parent must do what comes naturally to her. i have been relatively lucky in that after the first 2.5 months asher started being able to sleep for longer stretches on his own in his crib. he actually sleeps better in his crib than he does with us, maybe because we started him in his crib early or maybe because i woke up all the time out of anxiety and disturbed him when he slept with me! we have let him CIO for at most 2o mins once or twice for naps when he was so overtired that he wouldn't sleep in our arms either, and he felt much better after a good sleep. anyway, he is now 6 months and i still wake up and nurse him or hold him at least once during the night. my question is to other full time working moms and dads about how to deal with our own fatigue throughout the day. my husband and i don't work in environments where closing our eyes for a few minutes is even feasible, and i hate relying on caffeine to get through the day. does anyone have other suggestions beyond maintaining a healthy diet and staying hydrated, which i already do? just found this website this morning, i’m looking for some options to help my son’s severe eczema, thanks for sharing your insights!

in terms of the sleep debate, agreed that each parent must do what comes naturally to her. i have been relatively lucky in that after the first 2.5 months asher started being able to sleep for longer stretches on his own in his crib. he actually sleeps better in his crib than he does with us, maybe because we started him in his crib early or maybe because i woke up all the time out of anxiety and disturbed him when he slept with me! we have let him CIO for at most 2o mins once or twice for naps when he was so overtired that he wouldn’t sleep in our arms either, and he felt much better after a good sleep. anyway, he is now 6 months and i still wake up and nurse him or hold him at least once during the night. my question is to other full time working moms and dads about how to deal with our own fatigue throughout the day. my husband and i don’t work in environments where closing our eyes for a few minutes is even feasible, and i hate relying on caffeine to get through the day. does anyone have other suggestions beyond maintaining a healthy diet and staying hydrated, which i already do?

]]> By: Kim http://healthygreenmoms.com/cry-it-out-advice-not-helpful/comment-page-1/#comment-3957 Kim Sun, 28 Mar 2010 00:51:31 +0000 http://healthygreenmoms.com/?p=3413#comment-3957 Do whatever comes naturally, get help when you are overwhelmed and over, over tired-that's important too. (Family, friends, etc.). I nursed my four children on demand, let them sleep with me, and held them all the time.....for the first year (some maybe more...) after that, they weaned to a cup, and a crib all by themselves....they still didn't always sleep through the night....I usually just had to rub them or rock for a minute...but they were all FANTASTIC sleepers from about a year on!! Slept through anything and any noise!! ME?? I am still sleep deprived and my kids are 25, 23, 16 and 13 !!! But I wouldn't have changed all that holding and snuggling and cuddling for anything!! Do whatever comes naturally, get help when you are overwhelmed and over, over tired-that’s important too. (Family, friends, etc.). I nursed my four children on demand, let them sleep with me, and held them all the time…..for the first year (some maybe more…) after that, they weaned to a cup, and a crib all by themselves….they still didn’t always sleep through the night….I usually just had to rub them or rock for a minute…but they were all FANTASTIC sleepers from about a year on!! Slept through anything and any noise!! ME?? I am still sleep deprived and my kids are 25, 23, 16 and 13 !!! But I wouldn’t have changed all that holding and snuggling and cuddling for anything!!

]]> By: Linda http://healthygreenmoms.com/cry-it-out-advice-not-helpful/comment-page-1/#comment-3734 Linda Wed, 17 Feb 2010 01:21:51 +0000 http://healthygreenmoms.com/?p=3413#comment-3734 Amen sista! I hear ya and totally agree. I tried the cry it out with my first and I will never forget that horrible night. No way was I going to do that to him or another one of my babies again. My second I'm prepared for the sleeplessness and while I don't like being sleep-deprived I know it will pass, and her trust in me will not be an issue. Amen sista! I hear ya and totally agree. I tried the cry it out with my first and I will never forget that horrible night. No way was I going to do that to him or another one of my babies again. My second I’m prepared for the sleeplessness and while I don’t like being sleep-deprived I know it will pass, and her trust in me will not be an issue.

]]> By: Holly http://healthygreenmoms.com/cry-it-out-advice-not-helpful/comment-page-1/#comment-3727 Holly Tue, 16 Feb 2010 15:54:53 +0000 http://healthygreenmoms.com/?p=3413#comment-3727 I have a 6 month old son, who luckily has always been a pretty good sleeper from Day 1. I tried CIO twice.... the first time he quieted down after about 10 minutes and went to sleep. The second time he cried for 45 minutes straight and by the end of that 45 minutes, I was in tears and he still wasn't asleep or calmed down. I finally brought him into bed with me and he fell asleep almost instantly in my arms. I feel if I had just done that in the first place or rocked him when he first got so fussy, I could have saved him and me and dad from all the heartache. He slept in bed with us for the first 3 months before we put him in his crib and he transferred very well. Now he wakes up once or twice a night to nurse, but usually always falls back asleep while nursing. I feel like we were not that sleep deprived be/c he was in bed with us in the beginning... he hardly ever cried be/c I woke up to his noises and instinctively knew that he was hungry. Now when he wakes up in his crib, if he is crying it's usually be/c his binky fell out and I can go in, put the binky back in, and he falls right back to sleep. If he wakes up "talking", then I know he's ready to eat, he'll nurse, and then go back down. I haven't read any sleep books and don't plan to. I'll just trust my instincts and roll with them! Good luck to you and your little guy! I have a 6 month old son, who luckily has always been a pretty good sleeper from Day 1. I tried CIO twice…. the first time he quieted down after about 10 minutes and went to sleep. The second time he cried for 45 minutes straight and by the end of that 45 minutes, I was in tears and he still wasn’t asleep or calmed down. I finally brought him into bed with me and he fell asleep almost instantly in my arms. I feel if I had just done that in the first place or rocked him when he first got so fussy, I could have saved him and me and dad from all the heartache. He slept in bed with us for the first 3 months before we put him in his crib and he transferred very well. Now he wakes up once or twice a night to nurse, but usually always falls back asleep while nursing. I feel like we were not that sleep deprived be/c he was in bed with us in the beginning… he hardly ever cried be/c I woke up to his noises and instinctively knew that he was hungry. Now when he wakes up in his crib, if he is crying it’s usually be/c his binky fell out and I can go in, put the binky back in, and he falls right back to sleep. If he wakes up “talking”, then I know he’s ready to eat, he’ll nurse, and then go back down. I haven’t read any sleep books and don’t plan to. I’ll just trust my instincts and roll with them!
Good luck to you and your little guy!

]]> By: keith http://healthygreenmoms.com/cry-it-out-advice-not-helpful/comment-page-1/#comment-3510 keith Sat, 16 Jan 2010 23:17:43 +0000 http://healthygreenmoms.com/?p=3413#comment-3510 Hi Monica! well said, we are going thru the same thing with our little Fox. We have yet to find resonance with any method that separates/isolates him from being close to us. He is a happy baby and so chill. The only time it gets hard is thru the night when its US that are not used to being up every 2 hours. Great to hear your story tho, keep it up and know you are not alone! be well, K Hi Monica!

well said, we are going thru the same thing with our little Fox. We have yet to find resonance with any method that separates/isolates him from being close to us. He is a happy baby and so chill. The only time it gets hard is thru the night when its US that are not used to being up every 2 hours. Great to hear your story tho, keep it up and know you are not alone!
be well,
K

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