Comments on: Cry It Out Advice Not Helpful http://healthygreenmoms.com/cry-it-out-advice-not-helpful/ Ideas for living well Sun, 22 Jan 2012 01:25:30 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1.3 By: maya http://healthygreenmoms.com/cry-it-out-advice-not-helpful/comment-page-1/#comment-5107 maya Wed, 13 Jul 2011 01:30:02 +0000 http://healthygreenmoms.com/?p=3413#comment-5107 Thank you so much for writing this!! Im in the exact same position with my 4 month old daughter. Everyone constantly tells me how 'she is going to be spoiled', or how 'she should be sleeping in her crib', etc. My daughter never liked the crib or bassinet from day one, and would cry hysterically. I thought to myself, how could I let my newly born baby just 'Cry it Out'? It just didnt seem right, or natural. I rock and hold her to sleep, and she co-sleeps with us. When she is awake she is a very happy and social baby. Yes, i still wake up every 2-3 hours to nurse her. But I know I wont look back in regret. And to me, being tired for a little while is worth it. They are only this young for such a short time. Thank you so much for writing this!! Im in the exact same position with my 4 month old daughter. Everyone constantly tells me how ‘she is going to be spoiled’, or how ‘she should be sleeping in her crib’, etc. My daughter never liked the crib or bassinet from day one, and would cry hysterically. I thought to myself, how could I let my newly born baby just ‘Cry it Out’? It just didnt seem right, or natural. I rock and hold her to sleep, and she co-sleeps with us. When she is awake she is a very happy and social baby. Yes, i still wake up every 2-3 hours to nurse her. But I know I wont look back in regret. And to me, being tired for a little while is worth it. They are only this young for such a short time.

]]> By: Karren http://healthygreenmoms.com/cry-it-out-advice-not-helpful/comment-page-1/#comment-4158 Karren Tue, 01 Feb 2011 16:27:47 +0000 http://healthygreenmoms.com/?p=3413#comment-4158 Thank you for this article, I have been struggling with people telling me my daughter should be sleeping in her crib all night. As a newborn she had acid reflux and had to sleep elevated so I had her on a maternity pillow in bed with me. She has since outgrown that and began sleeping through the night in her crib, but she got a cold and could not sleep flat because she got so stopped up she couldn't breath. So, I again brought her in bed with me and had her elevated so she could sleep and breathe at the same time!. Well, she is now six months and while I can lay her down in her crib and she will sleep, anywhere from 2 to 3 hours later she is awake. I make 3 attempts to put her pacifier in her mouth and calm her to sleep. Usually she goes right back to sleep but within minutes is awake, on the third try if she cries she is up and in bed with me. I know many do not agree, but I love for her to sleep with me. She scoots over and puts her face right by mine and rubs my cheek or arm with her hand. I LOVE THIS TIME WITH HER. I had to go back to work, no choice, so for me this just adds to the bonding time. Plus, fortunately my husband is supportive of this and when I leave to go to work he stays next to her and sleeps in with her, he is on an evening shift, so he gets this time to bond with her as well. This may not be other people's idea of right, but it works for us, and I want my daughter to know that no matter what, mommy will always be right there for her and with her. She will always know how much I love her and how much she can count on me. I actually had someone ask me if I wanted to be at her beck and call I could keep responding to her when she woke up at night. HELLO!!! she is 6 months old, I am supposed to be at her beck and call, she can't walk, talk, sit-up on her own, but how dare I respond to her needs. I think too many people have forgotten what being a parent is about and unfortunately if we all look around at what is happening in our schools and our society, we are seeing the impact of such decisions in parenting. Thank you for this article, I have been struggling with people telling me my daughter should be sleeping in her crib all night. As a newborn she had acid reflux and had to sleep elevated so I had her on a maternity pillow in bed with me. She has since outgrown that and began sleeping through the night in her crib, but she got a cold and could not sleep flat because she got so stopped up she couldn’t breath. So, I again brought her in bed with me and had her elevated so she could sleep and breathe at the same time!. Well, she is now six months and while I can lay her down in her crib and she will sleep, anywhere from 2 to 3 hours later she is awake. I make 3 attempts to put her pacifier in her mouth and calm her to sleep. Usually she goes right back to sleep but within minutes is awake, on the third try if she cries she is up and in bed with me. I know many do not agree, but I love for her to sleep with me. She scoots over and puts her face right by mine and rubs my cheek or arm with her hand. I LOVE THIS TIME WITH HER. I had to go back to work, no choice, so for me this just adds to the bonding time. Plus, fortunately my husband is supportive of this and when I leave to go to work he stays next to her and sleeps in with her, he is on an evening shift, so he gets this time to bond with her as well. This may not be other people’s idea of right, but it works for us, and I want my daughter to know that no matter what, mommy will always be right there for her and with her. She will always know how much I love her and how much she can count on me. I actually had someone ask me if I wanted to be at her beck and call I could keep responding to her when she woke up at night. HELLO!!! she is 6 months old, I am supposed to be at her beck and call, she can’t walk, talk, sit-up on her own, but how dare I respond to her needs. I think too many people have forgotten what being a parent is about and unfortunately if we all look around at what is happening in our schools and our society, we are seeing the impact of such decisions in parenting.

]]> By: Lisa Ganse http://healthygreenmoms.com/cry-it-out-advice-not-helpful/comment-page-1/#comment-3984 Lisa Ganse Thu, 13 May 2010 13:32:28 +0000 http://healthygreenmoms.com/?p=3413#comment-3984 Just read your blog and wanted to share. We, too have had issues with sleep. My daughter has rarely slept thru the night and she is 5 1/2. My son is 26 months and does better, sleeping thru most nights. So needless to say, I have scoured the bookstore, websites, other parents and pediatricians looking for the solution to my "problem". A sleepy mom= a grumpy mom, and when not at my best, more of my "issues" arise. Anyway, I want to share two books that I have found immensely helpful. Elizabeth Pantley's No Cry Sleep Solution was helpful in getting my son to sleep, and with my daughter, for whom the not being able to sleep thru became a power struggle EVERY night, Beyond Time Out: From Chaos to Calm helped me specifically in the realm of sleep, but even generally overall. My daughter slept thru like maybe 4 times a year before this; since beginning to read this book and implement she has slept thru 5 of 7 nights in the past week. That is amazing, my friend. Crying it out never worked for us, everyone was miserable. Perhaps you will find some helpful advice here. Sleep well, dear lady! Just read your blog and wanted to share. We, too have had issues with sleep. My daughter has rarely slept thru the night and she is 5 1/2. My son is 26 months and does better, sleeping thru most nights. So needless to say, I have scoured the bookstore, websites, other parents and pediatricians looking for the solution to my “problem”. A sleepy mom= a grumpy mom, and when not at my best, more of my “issues” arise. Anyway, I want to share two books that I have found immensely helpful. Elizabeth Pantley’s No Cry Sleep Solution was helpful in getting my son to sleep, and with my daughter, for whom the not being able to sleep thru became a power struggle EVERY night, Beyond Time Out: From Chaos to Calm helped me specifically in the realm of sleep, but even generally overall. My daughter slept thru like maybe 4 times a year before this; since beginning to read this book and implement she has slept thru 5 of 7 nights in the past week. That is amazing, my friend. Crying it out never worked for us, everyone was miserable. Perhaps you will find some helpful advice here. Sleep well, dear lady!

]]> By: Brooke http://healthygreenmoms.com/cry-it-out-advice-not-helpful/comment-page-1/#comment-3980 Brooke Tue, 04 May 2010 20:54:40 +0000 http://healthygreenmoms.com/?p=3413#comment-3980 I am glad I found this website. I have a six month old son who is breastfed and I hold him at night. I have been trying to put him in bassinet or crib but he usually wakes right up or wakes up shortly thereafter. I refuse to let him cry it out and am surprised at the number of people who try to convince me that this is the only way to fix my "problem'', even people who I respect and am close to! I agree, babies communicate through crying. They need something if they're crying. Some babies aren't ready as soon as others to sleep all alone. There are other cultures that view Americans as crazy for putting their babies in a room all alone and letting them cry. I too wish I could just vent and talk about being tired without being judged and told I need to let my baby cry it out or I'm 'going to regret it' when they're still in bed with me a year from now. What I would regret more is having my precious baby lose trust in me and develop insecurity. If a baby has a need that isn't met now, it won't go away, it'll re-surface later in other ways. They only stop crying and go to sleep b/c they give up on you ever helping them. How horrible. I could never do that to my baby. I'd rather be tired. I'd rather go through hard times now and have a happy, secure child who trusts me. I am glad I found this website. I have a six month old son who is breastfed and I hold him at night. I have been trying to put him in bassinet or crib but he usually wakes right up or wakes up shortly thereafter. I refuse to let him cry it out and am surprised at the number of people who try to convince me that this is the only way to fix my “problem”, even people who I respect and am close to! I agree, babies communicate through crying. They need something if they’re crying. Some babies aren’t ready as soon as others to sleep all alone. There are other cultures that view Americans as crazy for putting their babies in a room all alone and letting them cry. I too wish I could just vent and talk about being tired without being judged and told I need to let my baby cry it out or I’m ‘going to regret it’ when they’re still in bed with me a year from now. What I would regret more is having my precious baby lose trust in me and develop insecurity. If a baby has a need that isn’t met now, it won’t go away, it’ll re-surface later in other ways. They only stop crying and go to sleep b/c they give up on you ever helping them. How horrible. I could never do that to my baby. I’d rather be tired. I’d rather go through hard times now and have a happy, secure child who trusts me.

]]> By: joanna http://healthygreenmoms.com/cry-it-out-advice-not-helpful/comment-page-1/#comment-3972 joanna Wed, 21 Apr 2010 12:32:36 +0000 http://healthygreenmoms.com/?p=3413#comment-3972 just found this website this morning, i'm looking for some options to help my son's severe eczema, thanks for sharing your insights! in terms of the sleep debate, agreed that each parent must do what comes naturally to her. i have been relatively lucky in that after the first 2.5 months asher started being able to sleep for longer stretches on his own in his crib. he actually sleeps better in his crib than he does with us, maybe because we started him in his crib early or maybe because i woke up all the time out of anxiety and disturbed him when he slept with me! we have let him CIO for at most 2o mins once or twice for naps when he was so overtired that he wouldn't sleep in our arms either, and he felt much better after a good sleep. anyway, he is now 6 months and i still wake up and nurse him or hold him at least once during the night. my question is to other full time working moms and dads about how to deal with our own fatigue throughout the day. my husband and i don't work in environments where closing our eyes for a few minutes is even feasible, and i hate relying on caffeine to get through the day. does anyone have other suggestions beyond maintaining a healthy diet and staying hydrated, which i already do? just found this website this morning, i’m looking for some options to help my son’s severe eczema, thanks for sharing your insights!

in terms of the sleep debate, agreed that each parent must do what comes naturally to her. i have been relatively lucky in that after the first 2.5 months asher started being able to sleep for longer stretches on his own in his crib. he actually sleeps better in his crib than he does with us, maybe because we started him in his crib early or maybe because i woke up all the time out of anxiety and disturbed him when he slept with me! we have let him CIO for at most 2o mins once or twice for naps when he was so overtired that he wouldn’t sleep in our arms either, and he felt much better after a good sleep. anyway, he is now 6 months and i still wake up and nurse him or hold him at least once during the night. my question is to other full time working moms and dads about how to deal with our own fatigue throughout the day. my husband and i don’t work in environments where closing our eyes for a few minutes is even feasible, and i hate relying on caffeine to get through the day. does anyone have other suggestions beyond maintaining a healthy diet and staying hydrated, which i already do?

]]> By: Kim http://healthygreenmoms.com/cry-it-out-advice-not-helpful/comment-page-1/#comment-3957 Kim Sun, 28 Mar 2010 00:51:31 +0000 http://healthygreenmoms.com/?p=3413#comment-3957 Do whatever comes naturally, get help when you are overwhelmed and over, over tired-that's important too. (Family, friends, etc.). I nursed my four children on demand, let them sleep with me, and held them all the time.....for the first year (some maybe more...) after that, they weaned to a cup, and a crib all by themselves....they still didn't always sleep through the night....I usually just had to rub them or rock for a minute...but they were all FANTASTIC sleepers from about a year on!! Slept through anything and any noise!! ME?? I am still sleep deprived and my kids are 25, 23, 16 and 13 !!! But I wouldn't have changed all that holding and snuggling and cuddling for anything!! Do whatever comes naturally, get help when you are overwhelmed and over, over tired-that’s important too. (Family, friends, etc.). I nursed my four children on demand, let them sleep with me, and held them all the time…..for the first year (some maybe more…) after that, they weaned to a cup, and a crib all by themselves….they still didn’t always sleep through the night….I usually just had to rub them or rock for a minute…but they were all FANTASTIC sleepers from about a year on!! Slept through anything and any noise!! ME?? I am still sleep deprived and my kids are 25, 23, 16 and 13 !!! But I wouldn’t have changed all that holding and snuggling and cuddling for anything!!

]]> By: Linda http://healthygreenmoms.com/cry-it-out-advice-not-helpful/comment-page-1/#comment-3734 Linda Wed, 17 Feb 2010 01:21:51 +0000 http://healthygreenmoms.com/?p=3413#comment-3734 Amen sista! I hear ya and totally agree. I tried the cry it out with my first and I will never forget that horrible night. No way was I going to do that to him or another one of my babies again. My second I'm prepared for the sleeplessness and while I don't like being sleep-deprived I know it will pass, and her trust in me will not be an issue. Amen sista! I hear ya and totally agree. I tried the cry it out with my first and I will never forget that horrible night. No way was I going to do that to him or another one of my babies again. My second I’m prepared for the sleeplessness and while I don’t like being sleep-deprived I know it will pass, and her trust in me will not be an issue.

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