Healthy Green Moms

We are undergoing a great shift. Many of our concepts about how the world operates (the great illusion) are currently being blasted wide open to incorporate a whole new set of possibilities for the future. One area that is undergoing a major transformation is in the field of medicine and healing. After thousands of years of relying on “others” to heal us, we are now discovering from the quantum field that we have much more influence over our inner and outer world than ever believed previously.

While I am aware of this incredible co-creative power in a way I have never before experienced, observing a deep level of healing taking place, I catch myself passing on the “old health paradigm” to my children.

The old paradigm has basically conditioned us to seek healing outside ourselves – relying on others rather than going within. It does not support a deep trust in the body’s intelligence nor a co-creative dance with All That Is. The old health paradigm also operates out of shame and blame: that physical illness is the result of doing something “wrong”.

As a parent, I find that I am becoming increasingly protective against the constant barrage of messages that lead children away from their center by telling them that they are incomplete (in so many ways) that “others” can fulfill.

When we continually seek to find our worth outside of ourselves we give our power away. We deny the light and wisdom that is present within each of us. This new health paradigm is challenging us to take responsibility for our own healing (which lies at the root of who we are) so that we can guide our children in a way that maintains and grows their inner guidance system as well.

All children are born with an inner compass. Over time, adults unconsciously model to children that their inner compass cannot be trusted. We do this by overriding them when they say they are not hungry. We do this when we rush to the doctor at every little sign of illness. We do this when we do not allow them to fully express the varied intensity of their experience. We do this because we were not raised with the understanding that our connection to Self is to be preserved above all.

We can bring this new health paradigm to life in our homes by showing our children that they are the key to their own well being. They are right to trust themselves and we support them by listening to what that trust ultimately involves.

These are some of the ways I am adjusting to and helping foster a new health paradigm:

• We remind our children that they have a place inside them that knows what is best for them. We help them find this by staying with them while they experience intense emotions. Invariably, the child will finally declare what they need if we are patient and loving.
• I am committed to mastering my emotions so that I can be “The Mother” in these situations.
• We relate to feelings as a passing experience. “Why don’t we sit a bit, while this feeling passes” that life is the experience of many different feelings and experiences and that over time they can learn to master them.
• We show them how to breathe when intense emotions surface.
• We ask them what they FEEL instead of telling them what we THINK.
• We refrain from telling them extensive details about the world, until they are older. This allows them the inner space to feel and experience the world instead of relating to it in abstract concepts. LESS is MORE!
• We ask them what their heart and GUT says about a particular event.
• We validate all interactions and stories involving special “friends” that cannot be seen with our eyes.
• We use EFT to help facilitate the flow and release of undigested emotions in the body.
• We use reconnective healing to resore balance and gain insight on
• We speak of the world an a place where we co-create our reality
• We always declare that their body is doing the healing, rather than a medicine doing the healing
• We rely less and less on “health products”
• I validate them when they read my mind
• I accept their perspective about life as it is – I try to see the world as they see it.
• I ask them who they came here to be? Not what they want to be when they grow up.

I am also releasing myself from the enormous responsibility of expecting that I know what is best for my children. There is a much larger dance at work and my role is to trust unconditionally that this process is constantly unfolding in our lives. Even in the presence of illness or disease I feel there is purpose and divinity in the face of what life brings to us.

I do not believe in a vengeful God.

In the new health paradigm, we can begin to see that all experience is appropriate for where we are and offer insight on how we can grow. The experiences of illness, dis-ease and denial of our inner knowing are a critical part of our life experience. They can be seen as gifts that provide insight into our souls lessons. We can guide our children with the understanding that there is no perfect way, no wright or wrong way for them to experience their life. We must simply honor and guide them to follow their inner compass.

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